12 Week Challenge

I am NOT going to lie doing a 12 week challenge has freaked me out, you swear I have never competed before in my life the way I am feeling right now, but if something doesnt scare you then it probably isnt worth doing and doubting myself before I have even started is NOT a good way to start!

Pulling myself towards myself as I type this!

12 Week Challenge starting date: 01 April 2013
RE: To prep for Clash of the Titans (hope to be ready in time but that will be determined by my nutritionist)

Let's start prepping!

I can do this, I will do this...GYM is about to become my new boyfriend.(again)

Even the strongest people go through weak moments...never forget your worth.

The last few months have been tough and me, the girl who always has it together, the strong individual, the one that nothing could affect...fell apart, lost a bit of herself for a while and is slowly trying to get it back.

Having friends who remind you of the type of person you are is the best thing in the world. When there is darkness surround yourself with people who love you, smile and laugh often it is the best medicine.

Stop letting people control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions and start working on forgetting what is gone, appreciate what still remains and start looking forward to what is going to come next in your life.

Hurt and pain go away, memories remain. Keep the good memories do away with the rest because hate in your heart consumes you and is a waste of time that you could be happy.

My friend said something to me the other day via e-mail that really hit home, it reminded me that life is too short to be anything but happy and love should come from both parties and love should never be mediocre. Everyone deserves a partner in life that appreciates them as much as they are appreciated.

She said...

I’m so sorry he has hurt you now again because you can’t find it in you to walk away from him and the damage he causes you!

I’m so sorry you allow him to play mind games with you and that he still lies to you!

I’m so sorry that you believe his lies because you love him!

I’m so sorry that other people always have to tell you the truth about him because you cant see it yourself!

I’m so sorry he always puts his feelings above yours!

I’m so sorry he always messes with your head!

I’m so sorry he always says that he needs time to sort himself out and you have to take a back seat until he is ready again!

I’m so sorry that he has come between you and some of your friends!

I’m sorry he has taken your passion and motivation away from you for gym!

I’m so sorry that he feels months later that he is too young for commitment and isn’t ready now! 

I’m so sorry that he doesn’t know if you’re the one, you would think he would know by now, after begging for you back the last time! 

I’m so sorry he always makes you out to be desperate/needy to other girls! 

I’m sorry he isn’t the one for you!  I’m sorry that you had to learn the hard way that he never will be!

I’m so sorry that you get embarrassed for having to say he did the same thing to you again!

I’m so sorry that you don’t just get angry and mad with yourself for believing he can change, when he can’t! 

I’m sorry that he has taken whatever trust you had in men away from the next person! 

I’m sorry he makes you feel like you aren’t worthy enough of a special Birthday with family and good friends! 

I’m so sorry you don’t know your own worth! 

I’m so sorry that you think this is the best partner that you can get in life!

But most of all, I’m so sorry I can’t be there to hold you and tell you everything is going to be ok…you just need to breathe and take one day at a time!

To all the ladies out there that might read this - remember what you are worth, being alone is ok - dont be with someone because you are too afraid to be alone and dontbe with someone who is not able to treat you right ~ Life is far too short.

We all make mistakes and learn from life, even the girl who thinks she had it all together ;)

 

Get up every morning and remember to NEVER...

• Let anyone but you yourself determine your self worth.
• Give with expecting to receive
• Make a promise you cannot keep
• Worry about something that is out of your control, give your problems to God.
• Allow ANYONE to dull your sparkle
• Complicate something that you can simplify
• Lie, one lie leads to another and it'll hurt you in the end as well as others
• Forget to treat others as you would expect to be treated
• Speak without listening
• Settle for less than what you truly deserve in life, life is far to short
• Sit and wait for something to happen, chances are it won't - go out and make it happen!
• Give up
• Give in, be relentless

And lastly NEVER

• forget to....

Psalm 116

Whatever your struggle is, that is tying you down from feeling fully free God will break those chains. You need to let him do whatever he wants to your heart, give him your heart completely...keep going, keep rowing, keep knowing and keep growing...

Psalm 116

¹ I love the Lord, for he heard my voice;
he heard my cry for mercy.
² Because he turned his ear to me,
I will call on him as long as I live.

³ The cords of death entangled me,
the anguish of the grave came over me;
I was overcome by distress and sorrow.
⁴ Then I called on the name of the Lord:
“Lord, save me!”

⁵ The Lord is gracious and righteous;
our God is full of compassion.
⁶ The Lord protects the unwary;
when I was brought low, he saved me.

⁷ Return to your rest, my soul,
for the Lord has been good to you.

⁸ For you, Lord, have delivered me from death,
my eyes from tears,
my feet from stumbling,
⁹ that I may walk before the Lord
in the land of the living.

¹⁰ I trusted in the Lord when I said,
“I am greatly afflicted”;
¹¹ in my alarm I said,
“Everyone is a liar.”

¹² What shall I return to the Lord
for all his goodness to me?

¹³ I will lift up the cup of salvation
and call on the name of the Lord.
¹⁴ I will fulfill my vows to the Lord
in the presence of all his people.

¹⁵ Precious in the sight of the Lord
is the death of his faithful servants.
¹⁶ Truly I am your servant, Lord;
I serve you just as my mother did;
you have freed me from my chains.

¹⁷ I will sacrifice a thank offering to you
and call on the name of the Lord.
¹⁸ I will fulfill my vows to the Lord
in the presence of all his people,
¹⁹ in the courts of the house of the Lord—
in your midst, Jerusalem.

 

Praise the Lord

Thirty facts I have learnt throughout my life...

In light of my 30th birthday closing in on me...Eeeeekkk!

There are a lot more than 30 things I have learnt in life but I thought everyone gets taught certain lessons in life and sometimes it takes for that same lesson to be taught over and over before it really sinks into your skull and other times it takes one powerful experience to 'burn' you for you to get that point driven home forever and fast!

So here are the 30 (what I feel are important) things I have discovered about life in my short time on this earth (yes because I am 30 years young ;) soon)

1. No-one has life all figured out!
2. If you see happy pictures on facebook, it isn't always the truth being portrayed.
3. Debt devours your soul...cash is king.
4. If something you are doing needs to be a secret or you are hiding it from the people closest to you as you are too ashamed of what they may think, chances are you shouldn't be doing it.
5. Weak people revenge, strong people forgive.
6. Most people cause suffering when they are suffering within themselves.
7. You can take a horse to water but you cannot make it drink!
8. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS...99% of the time your "gut-feeling" is right.
9. When you get up, dress up and show up, you feel great instantly and people can pick it up.
10. People (including me) overthink way too much.
11. On instant messenger, messages can be misunderstood.
12. If he truly loves you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you and seeing you smile will be top on his list, if not...he is just not that into you.
13. Words are powerful, so think before you speak, words spoken cannot be taken back, they sometimes leave scars for life.
14. Sometimes you have to remove certain people from your life no matter how important they are to you, if they no longer server a purpose you only hurt yourself by allowing them to stay.
15. Life is too short, if you are not enjoying what you are doing, STOP and go do what you really want to do!
16. A change is as good as a holiday.
17. Killing time is ridiculous, it never grows back...it is priceless.
18. That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
19. Actions speak louder than words.
20. Everything you do in life has consequences so think before you do and remember you are responsible no matter how you feel.
21. You need not speak to your best friends for ages but when you do its as if you spoke yesterday.
22. YOU are responsible for who you become not your parents.
23. You can look at a situation and see it totally different to how someone else sees it.
24. You cannot make someone love you
25. It takes years to build my trust but seconds for you to break it
26. Tell the people you love that you love them they can be taken from you in an instant. RIP Gramps
27. It is hard to sometimes hard to figure out when enough is enough
28. Never harbour bitterness it will rob you of your happiness
29. I have learnt that a smile can change someone's day in a flash
30. I still have loads to learn about life...

Life is pretty simple, we just choose to complicate it

I have kinda been going through life the last few months feeling as though I have an Eeyore sitting on my shoulders and yes when you feel as though you have a weight on your shoulders, do Squats they say...trust me I have tried that, it still didn’t seem to change matters, it just give me a tighter tush, hey bonus so I aint complaining BUT let's be serious here. We as humans tend to be our own worst enemies!

Life is pretty simple, we just choose to complicate it - SO UNCOMPLICATE IT!

If you are anything like me, let things be less than perfect, you do not live in a perfect world so stop trying to make it that way, life is not perfect, people are not perfect and well I am not sure if you have realised this yet - you are not perfect but guess what? THAT'S OK because the real world does not reward perfection so learn to see imperfect things or people perfectly.

A really good friend of mine Kerrie always tells me - Stop focusing on what you don't want in your life and start focusing on what you do. So wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful is going to happen in your life and I am willing to bet that you will be right. All positive thoughts have a success story attached to them.

Past mistakes, failures, relationships should all teach you something. It should give you the ability to create a better future because you now know what it is you don’t want to do or be or have in life so don’t be afraid of your past because of the hurt you may have felt. Do not allow it to dictate your now, learn from it and leave the past in the past, you cannot finish a book if you keep re-reading the same chapter #fact.

Focus on what is important to you not what is important to others, you are responsible for your own happiness so eliminate the things that do not feature on your list of important things to you. No wasted time = no regrets.

Give what you want to receive, this is a BIG one for me and we have been taught this throughout life. Everyone is human and we deserve kindness. We don't need to add to our burdens in life that we already carry by hurting others, it doesn’t make things better, so if you don’t want people being unkind to you don’t be unkind but still keep in mind someone is always going to hurt you but it is how you react to that, that matters. Remember what goes around comes around so treat people with respect and you will get respect in return

Stop trying to be everything to everyone, stop trying to please everyone, don’t try to be friends with everyone. Cultivate closer relationships with fewer people. Start focusing on being everything to someone. Helping or pleasing everyone is impossible. But making one person smile can change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus and most of all be yourself – at the end of the day true friends and loved one’s love you for who you truly are not some fabricated version of yourself – BE YOU, BE OPEN, BE HONEST, BE TRUSTWORTHY.

Integrity is the essence of everything successful – do good and life will turn out good. Do what you know in your heart is right, Stop doing immoral things simply because you can. Start being honest with yourself and everyone else. Don’t cheat. Be faithful. Be kind. Do the right thing! It is a less complicated way to live…less lies to have to keep up with. When you break the rules of integrity you invite serious complications into your life. Keep life simple and stress free by doing what you know in your heart is right.

Start caring about your own happiness, it is important to make other people happy, but you have to start with yourself. Never sell your soul to please someone else, we sometimes get lost trying to live our lives for someone else. You matter, your needs matter, relationships come and go but you live with yourself forever, this doesn’t mean love yourself so much you forget how to care about those around you just find a balance.

Start caring about how you treat yourself. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for how other people can treat you. You need to love the person you are otherwise no one else will either.

In closing remember that everything you do in life has a consequence…so think before you do.